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Ed777

  1 month ago

Pride 2022 and choice!

As we are in the Pride season I thought I would throw this in. The thing that probably annoys me most about some people is the fact that many of them still believe that being gay is a choice or that children are "taught to be gay", it's not, nor is it learned behaviour (every gay person I have ever met has had straight parents and gone to a school where heterosexuality was presented as the norm, it didn't make them straight!) So to those people who do believe it is a choice, a question, at what age did you decide to be straight?
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gljcleeve

  1 month ago
People can often be tipped towards being gay if the circumstances are right, but I think the basics have to be there all ready and that you can't "make" someone gay. Reply
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jaknight875

  1 month ago
It’s just a shame that people can’t be whatever they want to be without having to either explain themselves or try to fit in. It would cause a lot less heartache and stress if our society was more accepting. My next door neighbour has just come out as gay and is finally happy in his own skin. His mum is so pleased that’s he’s happy but unfortunately his dad isn’t :-( But that’s his dad’s problem. Anyone who has a problem with someone being gay needs to take a mirror to themselves imo. It is who you are. I just wish we didn’t have to put people into boxes because we can be quite fluid too, are people always just straight, gay or bi? I know of friends who have had same sex relationships but then married the opposite sex? Is that a choice or does it also depend on whether they connect on a deep sensual/love level with someone?? I’m not an expert in same sex relationships so I just don’t know, we learn all the time :-) I’m not an expert in opposite sex relationships either lol Reply
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bluemoon239

  1 month ago
My daughter has just returned from her trip to Canada to see her girlfriend. They're planning on living together in the future, probably here in the UK or Europe first and then Canada.
I've never seen her so happy with anyone, I'm so glad she finally found the right person for her
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Meryl10

  1 month ago
It's what you were born to be, although I think a lot of youngsters think it's ''in'' to be gay which is probably the wrong way to think, it is just what you are. Reply
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pigmare

  1 month ago
I was asked recently by a child if you could choose to be gay. They know someone who is and didn't know if it was something that person chose to be. It was strange as I've never seen it as something that would be viewed as a choice. It's just who you are. Reply
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davidwatkin

  1 month ago
My genes probably decided it for me Ed. :-) Reply
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BarrieB

  1 month ago
I think my first erection convinced me that I was heterosexual.
When I started work in the late '60's it was an open secret that "Frank" was homosexual but he was just "Frank" & he could do his job which was all that mattered.
Back the that was unusual as he was never insulted, laughed at or abused, assuming he's still alive he's now 81 & as far as I know still not come out & still living with the same partner.
Why do I rarely use the term gay?
When I was young you were breaking the law being homosexual & the poor sods were anything but gay even though they we As Good As You.
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Brucie

  1 month ago
I just saw this topic, and immediately next to it is Spartan’s post about the behaviour of drunks.
I think it astounding that by some people drunken behaviour is tolerated - even seen to be humorous - and that most definitely is a choice. A choice that affects not just themselves but those around them.
In contrast sexuality, which is determined by your genetic make up is criticised by some people.
I’m glad that schools are now teaching children that there are differences and all of these are normal. I’m glad that children are not being made to think they have some difficult choice to make. They are who they are and will grow and develop into that person.
I first met my eldest stepson when he was 12. I knew from then that he was gay although he didn’t come out until he was twenty. As a teenager he brought ‘girlfriends’ to visit us. Only later did we discover he had ‘borrowed’ his brothers’ friends to try to please us ! How sad is that?
I’m pleased to say he is now happily married and we love his husband too!
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NeedChocolate

  1 month ago
It's pretty obvious that being gay isn't a choice because given all the pressure to conform that children go through, let alone the prejudice
etc. who would 'choose' to be gay? I had a discussion with my American brother in law (married to my brother) about Florida's 'Don't say Gay' law a few weeks ago, telling him about Clause/Section 28 over here. America's current backwards trend is very concerning. As a matter of interest, my brother in law's brother is also gay. Their parents were straight.
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bickler1

  1 month ago
Hello there Ed,well said,as you know I have worked alongside gay folks most all my working life,I do not hold a view on whether it was a choice or otherwise.
My only frustration is the overt displays of so many and my dislike of most parades or demonstrations which always seem to attract the extreme fringes of whatever cause and many of my gay acquaintances prefer just to keep low profiles and get on with their lives,just like almost all straight folks like to.
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