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roselily1

  1 month ago

18 year wait

At the weekend i got a lovely surprise ,(maybe i should explain a little)20 years ago my first grandson was born ,my eldest son and his wife were young but i did not realise how naive my new daughter in law was ,and i had to help her a lot with the baby ,I am not going to go into a lot of detail here but circumstances beyond our control took over and though everyone in the family tried we could not foster or adopt my grandson and he was adopted elsewhere ,though social services did allow me and other members to write him a letter once a year and i would get 1 letter in return from his adopted parents ,when he turned 18 the letters stopped as he was now an adult and it was up to him if he wanted contact ,I never thought it would happen but 3 months after his 18 birthday his adopted mum contacted me on facebook ,We have spoke on and off for two years ,she told me my grandson was not ready to speak to me yet ,and i understood ,my ex-husband got to know that she had been contacting me and started bombarding her with messages,which just made things worst ,she told him "you never bothered to write in the 18 years so why are you bothered now " i did not interfere ,but i did think my chance to talk to my grandson had ggone .but on saturday i got a lovely surprise my grandsons adopted mother contacted me this time by private message and told me my grandson wants to be in touch ,he soon took over the texting and we messaged each other for a few hours .I have waited 18 years to be in contact with him again and i know he is going to ask some difficult questions but i have told him and his adopted mum that i will tell them the truth about everything ,most of what happened he does not know as he was only two ,but for now being in contact and having each others phone numbers is enough,and it really made my year a lot better
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thedocwatson

  1 month ago
That is so heart warming I wish you the best of luck for the future Reply
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sueal1979

  1 month ago
Lovely to read Reply
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crazykaz

  1 month ago
Lovely news to hear Reply
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SimonGUK

  1 month ago
Congratulations. :-) Reply
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survay12

  1 month ago
We had a very similar situation about 40 years ago and have as yet had no success in tracing my wife's son. We have had a little news that he is alive (yes !), and OK (yes !). It is a very complicated situation but we live in hope that they might be able to communicate sometime. You have done very well so please do not give up (we are sure you will not !) Well done you !! Reply
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hess72

  1 month ago
lovely news roselily, i hope things keep progressing and you can meet one day, maybe get to meet his great grandmother too x Reply
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spartan3002

  1 month ago
Thats lovely Rose , I'm so pleased for you both ;) Reply
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g2714572

  1 month ago
Ah Rose that's brilliant news from what i know if you, you will certainly tell him the truth but also hope after the truth telling the bind will happen and he gets to know his family and he wont regret catching up with you, as you v a bit of life in you ( meaning good craic ) so happy days to that :) i hope meet ups happen soon:) or down the line , well this lockdown thing might change next month so hope its all good for you after that x Reply
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Minnie1956

  1 month ago
That's wonderful news Rose! It's good that you are all taking things slowly and that his adoptive mother is on-side too. I hope the relationship will grow and flourish. xx Reply
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ray.ray.gismo

  1 month ago
Thats incredible news! Really happy for you and I hope you two are able to make up for lost years and build a great relationship. Reply
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