Dilemma - PLEASE HELP - "Best Friend"..

If it was a one off I would say as someone has already he is an ex so although it must be difficult you have no claim and its between them. But three! Sounds to me like the girl has a few issues, and my instinct is that she might not be very confident, and this is her way of emulating and looking up to you in a way. Either that or she has a bit of a nasty streak and likes causing trouble. If it’s the first you might be able to deal with it, compliment her on things you think she is really good at, clothes that look nice that kind of thing build up her confidence. That way she won’t need to in effect copy you. If it’s the second I would stay well clear, only you know her and can therefore have an instinct why she might be doing it.

get a new best friend, and possibly smack her one

As they are your exes it should not be a problem but i find it strange how a so called best friend then wants them for herself. I assume she would have met them whilst you were going out with them and perhaps just wants to continue her friendship with them even thought they have split with you. I would worry more about whether she has her eye on your man when you are still with him. If she wants to pick up your cast offs it seems odd but i dont think there is anything you can do about it other then ending your friendship or having a little chat about how it seems from your point of view

It sound,s like she,s jealous of you, and trying to copy all that you do. It is a compliment to you, but she seems a strange "best friend", has she not got a life of her own.
If i were in this position i would have to confront her about it.

If they've all been exes at the time take it as a compliment that she likes your taste in men, or.....
She's a little insecure in her own mind about finding one of her own so is willing t take your cast-offs.
You have to decide whether she's worthy of being a bestfriend or not, and it's not as if she's actually taking them away from you while you're still seeing them. Of course that's another dilemma for you, do you still want to see the ex-boyfriends out and about with her?

So because she was seen talking to your ex that means she is automatically trying to jump into bed with them yes?? This is the assumption you're making yeah?? And how exactly do you know she is trying to get with your ex's?? And so what??? You don't want them so why can't she have them?? If she's your friend I don't see anything wrong with her having your "sloppy seconds" as you so charmingly put it...at least youre not rough enough to be having hers!!! Let her do what she wants and be happy...bit different if she was coming onto your blokes when they were with you!!

i think ur friend feels that she wants to have anything that u have. she might be jealous of you and think that ur a competition or something. or even tryna live ur life after you've left them.. i dunno

If they are your exes, then what is the problem?

My question to you is, why don't you want to let go of your exes? If you've split with a bloke, why would you care if she wants to date one of them? Are you saying that once you've been with a guy that no one you know is ever allowed near him? Why can't she date whomever she likes? Maybe the problem isn't with her. Has it occurred to you that she might see something in a man that you didn't? Why does it cause you grief? Do you think the men you dated should all have their balls cut off so that no one can ever come near them again? Why are you so possessive of men you don't want anymore? If it really is over between you and any guy, why don't you let your friend off of the hook and let her get on with her life as she sees fit? I think the problem is more about you than her. Let go of the past, if you've got a new man in your life, I think tossing your friend a bone and letting her get on with her life is the least you could do. And to be honest, referring to someone you once were with for two years as 'sloppy seconds' says a hell of a lot about you, girlie.

You call this lass a friend! I have heard of keeping up with the Jones's but this is ridiculous. Have you spoke to any of your other mates about this to get their opinion. You need somebody who is totally honest (like me) who would tell you the truth when out clothes shopping etc. I could understand if you were twin sisters as sometimes they have the same taste in men. I would not be her 'friend' and wouold tell her exactly the truth - big time!