inzilbeth's Opinions

I just wanted to ask if anyone has any hints for me if they have been through this as my teen has just hit puberty with a bang and has a real problem dealing with his temper.
He does not lose it often (thank the heavens) but when he does all reasoning with him goes out the window and he is literally his own worst enemy at that time.
He says hurtful things to me which he is later sorry for but I really want him to realise that not everyone is going to have the patience with him that I do and that he needs to try and curb it in some way and perhaps even learn his trigger points.
All fancy talk I know but not something that a 13 year old who is in a mood wants to listen to ;-)
He has only had three outbursts so far!!! But the latest was yesterday when he was tired from having a sleepover with a mate. He said something which I considered wrong to his sister, I picked him up on it and all hell broke loose. I cleared his room, he has apologised this morning and I told him the apology was accepted but he needed to write a letter of apology to his father and his grandmother who was in the house when he had his tantrum.
So he is doing it as I type and is upstairs with a pen and paper ;-)
God only knows what he is going to come down with but at least he is doing it... it is a start.
So please if anyone has any hints on how to deal with teenage boys... it would be appreciated ;-)

Thanks Inzil xxxx

happy 20th opinion :-)

It's great that he is writing letters of apology, you really have done a good thing there! I don't know how I'll cope when Carson gets older and has tantrums but I guess i'll feel the same as you, upset.

Good luck for future outbursts! xx

Having just logged in this morning I was surprised to see the new Toluna blog entry on netiquette basically asking that we refrain from posting topics etc entirely in capitals. I for one agree with it but do understand that some people prefer to type in capitals as they see it better.
As for Toluna now advising that any topics put into the wrong categories or written entirely in said capitals are subject to deletion that is a bit harsh.
They also say that any topics written in another language are subject to deletion, well may be, that is a bit harsh too. We do have members from all the sites logging into our English one and adding opinions to our topics in their own language and if actually you translate some of them, they can be quite good.. Well I do say some of them ;-)
Have you read this netiquette blog entry and do you agree with it?
I suppose in a way it is confirmation that Toluna is actually taking note of what is happening on this small part of the site.

Hi Inzilbeth, I sometimes write a couple of words in capitals if I want to emphasize something, or I get a little excited about a topic. But I think that it being subject to deletiona is a little harsh. At the end of the day, surely it is better that people want to contribute to a subject in their own way, rather than not at all. Also, we must surely have members who have problems with their eyesight and typing in capitals may be better for them to use. So, for me, I dont feel it is bad to write in capitals, I just think its another way of typing their opinion.

I have just been watching the Sex Education Show on Channel 4 and it has totally opened my eyes to the effect of porn on our kids. They have launched a 'Protect our kids from porn' campaign and it is about time something like this was done. Their banner shows an eleven year old girl in a shop looking at porn magazines and their point is that whilst this would not happen in day to day life it is happening via the internet; therefore restrictions need to be brought in now.
The thing that got me most was when they took 4 normal school boys into a room and showed them 10 pictures of women’s breasts and asked them to pick the one they liked best. All the boys picked the same pair which happened to be the one pair there which were fake and when asked why, they said because they were perfect, the others did not look real!
The effects of pornography on our kids at work. Boys then have an unrealistic view of how girls should look and girls themselves are under pressure from a young age to look like the air brushed pictures in porn magazines.
I am at a loss how to stop my kids seeing such images in the future as whilst I monitor the internet at home I cannot control what happens at friends house, what they access via the mobile or on the computer in internet cafes etc.
What are your feelings on the amount of pornography on the internet which is accessible to kids? And how would you suggest it should be tackled.. At the source, the distributors or do even the net providers have a duty now to step in before the moral fibre of our society is completely eroded?

They are sure to see and hear things as they get older ,, best to give them all the facts and discuss the issues with them as soon as they start to ask . They will be less interested in porn if they know the score .

Apparently EBay has just removed from their site advertisements from the US advertising DIY Botox kits!
There was also found, not on Ebay another site since closed down, kits offering Melanotan complete with syringes and instructions as to how to use the injections in the stomach!
Whilst Botox can be used it is supposed to be used by a professional.. It is a poison after all and as for Melanotan, this is not even licensed in the UK over fears of its safety.
Has the internet become a place for cut-price beauty treatments.. even those which have serious potential side effects?
And would you use them or even take the risk?
I for one would never purchase any kind of medicine, injections or pills on the internet.. but it is becoming a massive business. But unless medicines are from a reputable company who is to say what is in them. Why are some people so daft as to play with their lives.. and all in the name of beauty?

i would never risk DIY bottox, im up for trying new products but not the botax, want to improve my looks not damage them lol

I have read a lot about disappearing opinions etc but have noticed today that for me it is only the topics that I have answered.
There is an option on everyones account page where you can select whether to see or not all topics and polls or only those you have not answered or voted on.
I have checked and my option is to see all so I can see what other answers topics get but what is happening is that on Toluna I can only see those that I have not answered.
So a new bug seems to be in the system. Has anyone else noticed that what is missing is the topics and polls that they have answered?
I will e-mail Toluna but do hope it is not just my system ;-) Take care and have a wonderful weekend.. hunting for your replies!

Yes inzil all my topics over the last few days never appeared on page 1 but went straight to my home page with 1 or 2 replies (thankyou)so they must be somewhere unless as I keep checking yet can never find them anywhere else. Ah well these things come to try us and there has been a lot of new members join so maybe Toluna are giving them room and putting us in bootcamp for being disobedient!

I have just moved out all the furniture from the eldest kids rooms and whilst my sons room as ok as it is fairly 'decluttered', my daughters room has astounded me with the amount of lego, figures, etc behind her bed, desk even under the wardrobe. I even found missing socks.. I had expected that from my son but not from her ;-)
I am now officially going to tell her when she get home from school that there is a ban on any more lego or toys being purchased from pocket money till she gets her room in order and keeps it that way for a good while.
Do you children keep their rooms clean? Or do you have to issue a warning before you dare to enter ? ;-)

hi there i dont have children but i do have 2 dogs that make enough mess for 5 kids and i have to clean it up, i also have a parter ho thinks tis house is self cleaning lol x