I personally think both are really, really bad unless the person has a health problem that made them that way.

Of course I would like to lose a bit but it does not interfere with my luife

i thought 200 hundred but now im not sure if that is enough

200 euros is too much! That would just be spoiling your child and he will expect it time & time again. Why are you giving him money? What about presents?

My husband thinks £40 I think this is excessive what do you think?

At 21, your son is old enough to rent privately where he would be spending £450 p/m rent plus £200 av on bills. As he's earning £1200 a month he could afford this. As he's still living at home he should pay about £150 a month otherwise he's going to be very spoilt!!