Mothers and Daughters

I suffered from depression for most of my daughters young life and I am only just beginning to recover. She is very much her fathers daughter but I am looking forward to becoming friends with her now that I am feeling better even if she is 22.

i always had a really close and special relationship with my mum, even after i moved out, and got married, we still spent a lot of time together, and her door was always open,with a welcome shoulder to cry on, and im sure you daughter knows the same, even though you have grown apart, and not had much time together, im sure she knows deep down, that you would be there if she ever needed you.i do really feel for you, it must be so heartbreaking, my daughter isnt very old, but it would really cut deep if any of my children left home and didnt stay in touch. keep your chin up xx

sorry playing catch up again ]]]]] i have a strong bond with both my girls, my youngest was 37 yrs last tuesday, and my eldest will be 39 in sept, and we are like pals 99.99% of the time, the other bit is when we have a difference of opinion, but ... we never fall out just agree to disagree, i go to most of the shows like the ice dance etc. with them, and we have such a laugh and giggle, yes a teens we did not grown apart, but lived some of the time on different planets, but now they have grown up, and i,ve grown down, we are like 3 peas in a pod. they as well as my partner are my bestist ever, ever pals ---- i feel sad for you lulu, but a small compensation is you have the chance to have what i,ve got with your 2 liitle ones now

sorry lulu i dont have a daughter,but it must be hard for you,your little precious has now grown up and like we did when when we were young in teenage years forgot about mam and dad and enjoyed themselves.only come too mam when things are hard or bad,i must admit life as a farther or mother is bad enough haveing a son doing what they do but haveing a daughter is a lot worse mentally,but known us people from the northeast im sure wvwrything will be fine and your bond with your daughter will always be the same

Sorry to hear that Lulu, I really get on well with my daughter but we can have our moments. She could be just at that awkward age, I hope things get better. My only advice is always listen and try not to be too judgemental, that can be really hard sometimes but lucky enough it worked for me. I hope things get better for you. Love Rosie

I have a little girl of 2, and after many years of thinking i would never have a daughter i got one, i have also three sons whom i love very much, but i wanted a daughter so much.

i hate my mum since she kicked me out at 14 cause i told her her huband was abusin me she chose him over me

Hi lulu,i had a very good relationship with my mum,she was on her own from when i was 3 years old, she never got remarried or had another man,she put all her life into me,i went through teenage years when i was horrible to her and ce u argung or alled her name and hit her,i went ot my dads sometimes but hated it there,so i stopped going,we have our differences and sometimes she drives me mad and vice versa,but at the end of the day we get on briliantly,we have a good laugh,wind each other up and generally go to far with bantering for other peoples tastes but that is how we are,people look at us funny as if to say why are u arguing or speaking like that to each other, we have to explain that is how we are we are always bickering in a fun way and arguing but not nasty just having a laugh but other people don't see that,even now i am married with two kids,if i am ill or nt well i always ring my mum and need a cuddle,as long as your daughterknows the door is always open and you love her no what she does she will come back,i know it is hard as i have a bumpy time with my 9 year old,if his dad isn't about he will not do anything i say,he always goes against me and argues and is just naughty but then he can be a perfect child and very loving to me,but i don't need and my hubby doesn't need this from him,but of course with Terry's illness he is frightened and is just growing up and trying his boundarys.Your daughter will come back to you and your relationship will be even better
Good Luck and Lots of Love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I was lucky that I always had a great relationship with my mother even though my father was horrid. I left home at 17 due to my father and I getting to the point where something was going to happen and went flatting. Even then I used to go out with my mother for saturday's and spend heaps of time with her. I have friends who the same and friends who don't get a long with their mothers at all so everyone's different. I can honestly say that my mum was my best friend when she departed here. I talked to her about everything and anything and one of the reasons we were so close is that she never judged me or talked down to me. Even when I decided at 14 that I was not going to church anymore Mum just told that it was my choice and that if I ever wanted to start going again to let her know. She was quite religious so I know it hurt her but she was great about it. A number of my friends have gotten closer to their mothers as they grew up and experienced the real world and I imagine at some point yowzer you two will come back together but maybe she just needs to grow, find herself and understand more about the world before she realises what she has in you.

LULU is that you !!you are truly gorgeous...actually you are quite like my mental pic but in my mind you have hair same colour as lucy's...lulu, believe me, my daughter - now 27 - is a totally different person to when she was a teen...As a little girl, she was a little love and so very sweet, but they all have a monster phase in their teens..and just like your teen now, mine wanted to be with her friends usually or with her Dad (though he wasnt good to her in any way) ...anywhere really that I wasnt! I often felt i must have lost her forever,,By the time she was in her early twenties though, she ahd changed so much...she still loves all her mates and has loads of them but she is so caring and protective and loving to me ..and she loves to do girly stuff with me and we have such a laugh..she would defend me with her last breath i know...and you know, a few years down the line, you and yr girl will have found yr way back to each other and have all the mum/daughter stuff too...I am sure of it so dont envy what i have because you have it too and more, from yr two girls and from yr two boys as well...you see, i envy you having four, when i have only one....you are a lovely Mum and have lovely kids, but girls are notoriously very difficult as teens, in a way you mightnt have had with yr older boy..so don't worry, they ARE yr precious babies all of them,and you are their one and only MUMMY XXXXX