Bitterness and Jealousy the saddest emotions?

I am not a jealous person as it only brings sadness ! Envious at times of some things but I have all I need within reason and a good hubby, nice bungalow, and food in the tum. health is a different matter for both of us but we are alive and manage to get around.
If people are envious of the hard work others have done to better themselves they are twisted and bitter .We have to work hard to achieve the life we want and if some folk can't or will not that is their problem and not an excuse to be catty and jealous. nothing is gained easily in the average persons life unless you were born with a silver spoon in the mouth (me I had a plastic bucket!!) I am proud of what I have achieved and also hubby so what any one else has does never bother me.I don't gamble so will never win a lot of money or loose any either.I am pleased if good luck shines on any person I know but money can be the root of all evil.(but it is nice to have a bit eh ann?)

The opinions printed here are merely imitating real life. The world is full of envious, jealous people and often they cant help themselves when they read of someone doing well; with a possession they want or merely because they judge the person as being stuck up or posey. I am in total agreement with you about the effects of bitterness, anger and envy. To people like that, seeing someone else's minor success makes them feel inadequate and in their minds, unlucky. How often have you heard one of your contemporaries say "How come you've got it and I havent?" Many times they havent put themselves out to get it but they expect it as par for the course. I know that I get those kind of remarks all the time because I was born with all the good fairies in attendance at my christening. Thus, my life is full of luck and good things but they didnt just fall into my lap. I make things happen. I loathe it when you read of someone winning a large amount of money and others start snipping about them. lets you and me consider ourselves lucky not to have those traits.

I think that some people just seem to swim in a constant pool of their own anger, often though their disappointment in life is at their own hands because they are often the people who don't actively live life and think that everyone who gets somewhere in life just has everything handed to them and chooses to ignore the hard work and sacrifice those people have put in to get ahead.

There are many people out there like that and when you meet them it is always a sharp reminder of the different edges of the human personality and view on the world. Bitterness can ruin a person's life, yet, bitterness comes from within. It isn't caused by anyone but you yourself. No one can make you bitter, a situation can't make you bitter, bitter is a self fulfilling prophesy so to speak.

Gee I am feeling philsophical today lol

You should be that you are happy for the person and if things are going well for them and they have had a recent success, then congratulate them. This is doubly the case if they are a friend, as that is how you would expect a friend to behave to you and is an unattractive trait. Having had several miscarriages however I do find it diffcult not to be bitter if someone I know is pregnant but does not want the child and continues to smoke etc. Also to be envious of my oldest friend who got pregnant easily and quickly with no problems and is naturally delighted. As a friend I congratulate her and wish her the best, but only being human, I can’t as much as I want to feel entirely positive about it. I keep the latter thoughts to myself though as I value her as a friend. I think we are all human and therefore have both positive and negative traits but should try and consider others.

I think envy and jealousy though words meaning the same are different. I can feel envious of someone wishing I was in their place or had what they had got, but jealousy I think means that you somehow really hate that person having what they have. I can honestly say I am not a jealous person. I have not got a great deal and so I never expect much. I know when I was at work a group of girls won the lottery. Everywhere was buzzing. They unfortunately had a ticket that had 34 other winners so they got £145000 between 10 of them. They were grateful for that. I felt that day that I had won to. It was a lovely feeling.

It's been my experience that when life kicks someone often enough they learn that that's all they're likely to get, kicked, and after awhile it's really hard to believe that so many people go through life never getting kicked. It's like watching the rich kid who always gets the ice cream, after a life time of never getting the ice cream what you really want to do is shove it into the fat little bastard's face so that once in his wonderful, precious life he can know what it's like to be kicked. Don't blame the bitter and vengeful, sometimes it's only the bitterness and desire for vengeance on some level that keeps them from going over the edge. I know, I'm rapidly becoming one of them.

I'm never jealous of people who have it all, what's the point? But I will admit to a pang or two for any Aston Martin owners. Bitterness? maybe I'm bitter about some situations in my family (I won't go there), but I've learnt to let it go and just get on with MY life.