best friends

I have several "close" friends to whom I tell my innermost secrets; pull out the stops if they need moral and financial support and always try and be there at all times of the day or night if they have a problem. To those who live too far away I keep in daily contact by email and I tell them as often as i can that I love them loads, how much they have enhanced my life and how I will always be there for them. That is enough to give someone the reassurance they need in times of trouble. Your friend already knows how much she means to you and Im sure she feels the same so dont feel bad about not being physically present to help her through.

I think in these sort of situations all you can do is ring them and be available day or night by phone. I also find that I like to send cards and letters and little gifts as most of my friends are overseas and when they are having a bad time it really brings them a little joy just to get a little something in the mail. My best friend in Hong Kong has ongoing troubles with her sister who is an alcoholic bulemic and I recently sent her a necklace, only cost me £5 in total including postage but it really lit up her day and she was chuffed. Its the little thoughts not necessarily whether you are physically there for them.

you didn't let me down and never have we are all human so we can miss things and get caught up in our own life, problems and day to day living . Being far away doesn't help either but your always my rock and strength you help me in so many ways more than you will ever know. I love you too as a wonderful friend and sister. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you will always be there for me as I hope I can be there for you if ever you need me. Do you know how I know? Its because we are kindred spirits we share such a lot of similarities know the meaning of loss and pain and can laugh at the same daft jokes. Don't ever change you are so precious. Your mother knew what she was doing when she named you joy, you have brought such joy to her, mine and everyone who knows you lives, I truly thank her for such a wonderful gift xx Claire xx

Jo I love your pic of you and your little girl! You both look gorgeous! and you are gorgeous inside as well as outside, as your words so often prove. Because you live so far away from yr good friend, there is little you can do practically,so i would say,just keep in touch thru email and text if you can.You write in such a good way that I am sure your words will give her a lift and inspire her, and will be a great comfort to her XX

I have a few, i would say it was my friend shirley.I think she knows me quite well, and she is so thoughtful and kind.

impossbile 2 choose between them so have a big group instead lol but u 'd kno who it is or not cuz they'd stand by u

Am sure she knows that you'll always be there for her if your that close,everybody's only afone call away or send a letter in the post

I have a really good friend in Australia. About 18 months ago she left a message on my answerphone asking me to phone when I had the chance. (She's not on e-mail, so the only way to contact her was by phone.) the problem was, I had laryngitis and had completely lost my voice - I had no voice at all for well over a week. The day my voice began to come back - very croaky but just about audible, a friend told me that my Australian friend's mother had died. That was why she wanted me to ring - and I hadn't been able to. Needless to say, I stayed up till really late that night so I could speak to her in the morning her time, and of course she understood, but I still felt so bad that I wasn't there for her. In the end I had to forgive myself, and you have to forgive yourself Jo. You would not have lt your friend down if it could have been avoided, so the only thing to do is forgive yourself and let your friend know you love her and want to be there for her in whatever way you can now.